tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post6142512242158477285..comments2023-06-13T10:16:05.510-04:00Comments on bennyandbex: don't tell me what to dopeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17050305076293229228noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-63402949302505455282011-04-19T15:24:57.182-04:002011-04-19T15:24:57.182-04:00This is a great CarNatPar post. I also backed way ...This is a great CarNatPar post. I also backed way off, unlike when I was a new parent (or even pre-parenting when I knew it all. Ha!) I think if more people advocated this way, there would be less unsolicited advice in the first place.Zoie @ TouchstoneZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08688056216105729821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-60070770868208373502011-04-16T23:59:17.694-04:002011-04-16T23:59:17.694-04:00Wonderful!
Unsolicited advice is common where I l...Wonderful!<br /><br />Unsolicited advice is common where I live. Walk around town with a newborn baby and you soon lose count of how many people tell you the baby is too hot/cold, should be more/less covered, head is crooked, hold is too high/low and oh if you forget to shield your bundle from the sun with an umbrella people seem to leap out from everywhere with admonitions that the baby will be burned - in an instant!<br /><br />Because it is so common in our culture, most times I took it with the attitude of 'hey thanks for caring about us, I know you want to show us some love and say something so ok, bye' and walk on. Occasionally I'd seethe silently and once I shouted at one guy that 'hey the last time I checked it was not his child!'<br /><br />So no I also don't run around dishing out shoulds and unwanted advice either...but oh just mention my wrap, cloth diapers and breastfeeding and the floodgates are open for me to gush all about my joys! But at the end of it all, my choices don't have to be your choices too. Respect!Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09684698960387428709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-66567179206595255472011-04-16T04:43:58.373-04:002011-04-16T04:43:58.373-04:00WONDERFUL POST! I totally agree with you.WONDERFUL POST! I totally agree with you.Write About Birthhttp://www.writeaboutbirth.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-89467690967493511522011-04-13T16:35:33.163-04:002011-04-13T16:35:33.163-04:00I'm with you on not being pushy. Love this pos...I'm with you on not being pushy. Love this post - brief and to the point. :)Amy Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394341758645911698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-37112577410128950462011-04-12T22:17:48.780-04:002011-04-12T22:17:48.780-04:00Another great post! And yes, I think nursing in pu...Another great post! And yes, I think nursing in public encourages others to do the same. I can vouch for the fact that you (and others) blogging about it encourages me when I feel like I'm the only one!CatholicMommyhttp://workingtobeworthy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-19978336002022791472011-04-12T22:17:14.709-04:002011-04-12T22:17:14.709-04:00I especially like your conclusion: "If you ar...I especially like your conclusion: "If you are curious and ask, I'll talk about it as long as you'll let me. But you can be sure I'll never tell you what to do." When it comes to parenting, I do tell people what we've tried and what works for us. But my mindset isn't to say, Hey, this is what you SHOULD do, but rather to say, Hey, here are some strategies you could try out.<br /><br />As for the unsolicited advice — oh, I deal with it so poorly, myself.... The thing that is so weird about it is that even when I 100% disagree with the advice given, I feel bad, because the advice is coming out of a judgment of me or my child.Rachael @ The Variegated Lifehttp://www.thevariegatedlife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-91308645448515273712011-04-12T21:35:23.448-04:002011-04-12T21:35:23.448-04:00I love this: Maybe a side effect of nursing in pub...I love this: Maybe a side effect of nursing in public will encourage more mamas and future mamas to do the same. <br />I totally agree!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15252738278205248669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-14890321865136184402011-04-12T18:37:14.233-04:002011-04-12T18:37:14.233-04:00Ha! I love it! I am so with you! A fine line betwe...Ha! I love it! I am so with you! A fine line between advocacy and being annoying LOL! <br /><br />This has helped me with my writer's block btw. I was supposed to be writing an article on gentle parenting for my local parenting magazine. Problem is, can't stand preaching so couldn't decide what to say. Now I know... will write a purely personal story presented as that and nothing else (with genuine intention NOT being to preach) and that is the end of it. Thanks!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06280287586386207575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-58563944599776207672011-04-12T17:13:23.958-04:002011-04-12T17:13:23.958-04:00Cheers for just saying no to unsolicited advice!! ...Cheers for just saying no to unsolicited advice!! Way to be an example. :)Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05398226405535438964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-52809859287972470152011-04-12T11:00:14.334-04:002011-04-12T11:00:14.334-04:00When you do come up with a good remark for unsolic...When you do come up with a good remark for unsolicited advice...PLEASE write about it! lol...<br /><br />I have to calm my inner dragon when someone says to me, "you're STILL breastfeeding?!" for goodness sakes my baby says Ma, not MOOOOOOOO!<br /><br />Great take on the theme!Jessica | Cloth Diapering Mamahttp://www.clothdiaperingmama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-60426321430656706512011-04-12T10:05:01.917-04:002011-04-12T10:05:01.917-04:00I agree that telling others what to do is rarely i...I agree that telling others what to do is rarely if ever effective. And living by example is so much easier :) Keep on keepin' on, mama!Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-54209076825434316802011-04-12T09:53:44.340-04:002011-04-12T09:53:44.340-04:00There are few things that get under my skin more t...There are few things that get under my skin more than unsolicited advice, so I appreciate moms like you who are willing to offer support and information without doling out criticism and advice. You are the kind of mama I seek out when I actually WANT advice on something! ;)melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16698231692999838673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967153926011220396.post-3565928099859432592011-04-12T08:43:04.108-04:002011-04-12T08:43:04.108-04:00I love the balance you are seeking between not pre...I love the balance you are seeking between not preaching, but answering people's questions with compassion when they ask. Just perfect!mrs green @ littlegreenbloghttp://littlegreenblog.comnoreply@blogger.com